M is for Monumental

Monumental is defined as

1. Resembling a monument; massive or imposing.
2. Exceptionally great, as in quality, quality, extent, or degree.
3. Of historical or enduring significance.
4. Having the quality of being larger than life; of heroic scale.

When I reflect over the experiences if my life thus far I have to be honest and say there are a few monumental moments I have experienced. For good or not so good those events have buried into my mind and are etched into my spirit for all times

The birth of each of my child.
The first date I shared with my husband.
Our marriage/ wedding day.
Our first home purchase.
The deaths of my greatgrand mother, grandmother, 2 of my aunts, and my cousin.
The day I was confronted with my affair.
The days I graduated from undergrad and grad school.
Completion of my thesis.
The day my husbands affair was confirmed.
The day I separated from my husband.
The day I stood and reclaimed my marriage.

At the time of each of these events I had some similar feels some very different feels, but either way they stayed with me. What I am learning is although all of those moments were monumental they are about perception. I can choose to look back on them with happiness, sadness, acceptance, regret, or as learning experiences. Life is a monumental event for me.

" We have no right to ask when a sarrow comes, "Why did this happen to me?" unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way."