Thursday, March 15, 2012
Divorce is chugging along
I am now almost at the half way mark of the 6 months waiting period of the divorce. Dec 27th was the official filing date its now March 15th almost 3 months down. I am not excited by the idea of the divorce being final but I am ok with it and I accept that that part of my life is over. The house being sold is trudging along slowly and surly and steadily. It will all happen in due time. My children are suffering. My youngest son is having issues in school with his academia and his behavior. I am prayerful and hopeful that the challenges he are experiencing can and will be addressed and that we can help in during this transition.
Dating with Purpose.. updates
Well God does answer prayers, but I knew that already! LOL. SC disappeared... no really, dropped off the face of the earth and I am SO ok with that. In fact I am relieved and thankful. I am thankful that I was brave enough to say what I wanted and needed and thankful that I was able to listen to his answer. When he did not call me back I was OK. In fact I was able to delete his phone number and in my heart and mind wish him nothing but good, and then I kept it moving!
I believe that when one door closes another one is bound to open, and that is what happens.
So here is the story. Jan 31st I meet a man lets call him LJ. We meet on line on a social site. He sent me a message and I responded. We spoke back and forth for a day or so and then he asked me on a date. We set a date for Sunday the 5th of Feb. He works nights and that was the first day that he and I both had off without plans. Well we exchanged phone numbers and began texting instead of the site. We text back and forth and on Thursday evening he told me that he was not going to work. We talked back and forth and I told him that I wish he would have said something as Thursday's are a good day for me to go out. Well Friday AM I got a text that stated he was not going to work and if I wanted we could hang out. I agreed. Friday we text back and forth and tried to settle on a location of our date. I had meetings at work and as the day went on I grew more excited. I made arrangements for lil gal and I set out for our first date.
Before I left I understood that he was a stranger and I got his info, date of birth, address, full first and last name and sent it to 5 of my friends. But I trust myself and I had a great feeling about him.
He willingly gave me the info and we decided to stay at his place for the date, watch DVR, drinks, and dinner. I also told him that we would NOT be having sex!
The date was GREAT, in fact it was so great that I did spend the night and I did have sex, and we did have a serious talk and decided that we would be together, dating each other only. We also began the in depth conversation. I asked all the ugly questions and I gave all my ugly answers.
He is separated for the past 2 years. His ex lives in another country they are neither legally divorced nor separated. He smokes cigarettes and drinks daily. He has 2 children both by his ex. He is ex military and is currently in the reserves and works full time at night. We share the same birthday and he is 2 years younger then me. We talked and his going joke is now that I said I was not going to have sex lol.
I am ok with how things turned out. I am OK with were we are and were we are going. I have had the "talk" I have set out my expectations of marriage. Now I am prayerful and hopeful
I believe that when one door closes another one is bound to open, and that is what happens.
So here is the story. Jan 31st I meet a man lets call him LJ. We meet on line on a social site. He sent me a message and I responded. We spoke back and forth for a day or so and then he asked me on a date. We set a date for Sunday the 5th of Feb. He works nights and that was the first day that he and I both had off without plans. Well we exchanged phone numbers and began texting instead of the site. We text back and forth and on Thursday evening he told me that he was not going to work. We talked back and forth and I told him that I wish he would have said something as Thursday's are a good day for me to go out. Well Friday AM I got a text that stated he was not going to work and if I wanted we could hang out. I agreed. Friday we text back and forth and tried to settle on a location of our date. I had meetings at work and as the day went on I grew more excited. I made arrangements for lil gal and I set out for our first date.
Before I left I understood that he was a stranger and I got his info, date of birth, address, full first and last name and sent it to 5 of my friends. But I trust myself and I had a great feeling about him.
He willingly gave me the info and we decided to stay at his place for the date, watch DVR, drinks, and dinner. I also told him that we would NOT be having sex!
The date was GREAT, in fact it was so great that I did spend the night and I did have sex, and we did have a serious talk and decided that we would be together, dating each other only. We also began the in depth conversation. I asked all the ugly questions and I gave all my ugly answers.
He is separated for the past 2 years. His ex lives in another country they are neither legally divorced nor separated. He smokes cigarettes and drinks daily. He has 2 children both by his ex. He is ex military and is currently in the reserves and works full time at night. We share the same birthday and he is 2 years younger then me. We talked and his going joke is now that I said I was not going to have sex lol.
I am ok with how things turned out. I am OK with were we are and were we are going. I have had the "talk" I have set out my expectations of marriage. Now I am prayerful and hopeful
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