Dating with purpose dating for marriage.

Yesterday I had the pleasure of being invited to a group get together for both married and single. It was a "christian" based group and I loved it. There was a video shown by a Pastor R.A. Vernon from The Word Church.  What I enjoyed the most and took away from the event was to date with purpose and my purpose is MARRIAGE.

It was so enlightening and uplifting to be CONFIRMED and grounded in my desire NOT to be "out there" looking to hook up with men and HOPE someone comes along. NOPE instead I am going to date with purpose. My 2 best GF told me that if I want something then I have to be bold in my declaration. I have to put "it out there". So I am!

I had the pleasure of meeting a person I will refer to as Southern Comfort or SC for short. SC is the best friend of MY best friends husband. SC lives in another state, SC is 4 years younger then me, SC is also going through a divorce. We meet for the first time 3 years ago when SC came to visit. We ended up being a "couple" for the time he was here on outings. My gf and her husband and SC and me. We talked and had fun, hung out but there was no sexual intercourse. We were both married at the time and we were committed to what we had. We shared our stories but we never crossed the line. I have to admit that I was attracted to him physically, emotionally, and mentally, but I understood that some of what I felt could very well be because of what I was lacking. Either way it did not matter...

Well fast forward to Aug of 2010. I separate from my ex, a year later Aug 2011 or so I am informed by by GF that SC has separated from his ex. I thought nothing of it. Dec 21st. I receive a text message from my gf husband informing me that SC would like to talk to me, here is his number and he is waiting for my call..... I called. We talked. We continue to talk.

Now to tie this story all together... Before I went last night to the group I had decided that I would be HONEST with SC and let him know my desires. I told him I was interested in him and for long term.. marriage potential. We talked about it... He did not hang up and he has not not spoken to me again. I think he is considering my position... I am prayerful to see what GOD has in store. I have made my intentions clear and I am prayerful that GOD answers prayers. If SC is not interested in pursuing marriage then we can be great friends but I will not just accept anything anymore.